How to Say Goodbye to Angry, Stressed-Out Parenting

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We’ve hit a really hard season in our family that we’ve been stuck in for a while, now.  I’m ashamed to admit it, but we’ve been stuck in an awful angry-cycle.  My husband and I weren’t on the same page, we weren’t connecting with the kids and everyone has been yelling and fighting.  It was terrible, but I didn’t know how to stop it.

I saw a post in one of the Facebook groups that I participate in about a new online book club that they’re starting in April, and the book caught my eye.  A few days later I was asked to review that very same book, and I jumped at the opportunity because it described where we were and hopefully would give us tips to get out of this place.

The book is Israel and Brook Wayne’s “Pitchin’ a Fit” and it is GOOD for helping to eradicate angry parenting.

About the Authors:

Israel Wayne passionately defends the Christian faith and helps families develop a Biblical worldview. In addition to his newest book Pitchin a Fit, he offers Full-
Time Parenting: A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship, Questions God Asks, Questions Jesus Asks, and Homeschooling from a Biblical Worldview. He is a
popular conference speaker and a frequent guest on national radio and television programs and has been featured in TIME Magazine, WORLD Magazine and the Wall Street Journal. Brook Wayne partners with Israel as wife, mother of their nine children, home educator, author, and founder of FamilyRenewal.org. Along
with Pitchin’ A Fit, the couple co-authored the audio book entitled, What God Has Joined Together.  Learn more about Israel and Brook Wayne at FamilyRenewal.org.

From the Book:

God is in the business of turning us worn-out, tired, stressed, and even angry parents into ones filled with self-control. (p. 21)

We can let stress overtake us. Or we can look for ways to employ the power of God, love, and self-control in the midst of all that stress.  (p. 23)

We cannot sow seeds of anger in our child’s life and expect to reap a harvest of God’s righteousness.  (p. 33)

if you consistently, as a lifestyle, respond in anger to your children, the fruit you can expect will be anger, bitterness, and resentment from your child.  (p. 34)

Convicting, right?

What I Liked About It:

Brook & Israel use real-life examples from their family, which helps to see that 1.) we are not alone in our struggle and 2.) they’ve walked through struggles with anger in parenting, too, and it makes what they’re saying easy to relate to.

Some of the topics that were touched on that were helpful to me were:

  • different anger triggers (messes, unnecessary noise and constant pain are some of mine)
  • what patience is and it what it isn’t – this chapter helped me to get the shift in perspective that I needed
  • how to handle tattling and what to teach the kids to do instead {phew, right?}
  • What to do instead of yelling
  • how to keep on keeping on
  • how/where to seek out accountability

This book came at the perfect time for me.  Maybe not coincidentally, the whole family got hit with a strong sickness (that is flu-like in symptoms, but we’re calling it the Plague).  I had been praying for a long time for a heart-change in my parenting, and being home sick with the kiddos really helped to bring about those changes this time around.

The overall tone in our home has improved, and I’m really praying that now that we’ve gotten a taste of this peace, that we will really cling to it as a family.

Where to Get the Book:

Through Amazon.com:

or from New Leaf Publishing Group.

 

Thank you to New Leaf Publishing Group for providing me with an electronic copy of this book.  All opinions expressed are my own.  No monetary compensation was received in exchange for my review.

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