Talking About the “I” Word {In Marriage}

Intimacy.

Not too many people talk about it.  I mean, REALLY talk about it.

For a lot of full-time Mommas, the LAST thing we want at the end of the day is ONE. MORE. PERSON. TOUCHING. US.

{It’s called feeling “touched-out”.   And it’s totally common.}

Of the people that DO talk about, I’ve noticed a common theme.  This is a fairly new concept to me, but I’ve embraced it and gladly share it with others when we’re discussing the issue.

There’s a little bit of a disconnect in the guy’s thinking and the gal’s thinking (I’m talking about married couples, here}.

  • The husband needs physical intimacy in order to feel loved.
  • The wife needs to feel loved in order to WANT physical intimacy.

Do you see where the two could be at odds, here?

I certainly don’t claim to be an expert on this topic, so I will gladly refer you to those have more experience talking about it than I do.  A great writer/blogger/public speaker that I have found is Sheila Wray Gregoire, and her blog is www.tolovehonorandvacuum.com.

She also has a great ebook:

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This ebook has a different topic for each of the 31 days, and challenges/activities for the husband and the wife.  It starts out with easy challenges, such as assessing how you feel about your physical appearance.  Oh, and did I mention that she’s a Christian?  She offers sound, biblical advice throughout the book as well.

I invite you to check out the 31 Days to Great Sex for Married Couples,  poke around her blog and glean some of the wisdom that she has to share.

As I mentioned in my post yesterday about how to be better parents, our marriage is THE most important relationship in the household, and has to be nurtured NOW – not when the kids are grown and on their own!