“Desperate” – The Book I Could Have Written {sort of}

Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe” is a wonderful book that was just released this week (and is already in its second printing – woohoo!), written by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson.

Sarah Mae is an in-the-trenches mom of young kiddos, and she was wonderfully blessed to have Sally (who has raised four of her own children already and written several parenting books) as her Mom Mentor.

Now, for the title of this blog post – I could not have written this book nearly as eloquently as Sarah Mae wrote it from her perspective.  However, the feelings that she talked about, the things that she’s struggled with ~ it felt like her words were echoing from my own soul.

I can’t be a mother today, Lord, I’m just too tired.”                { ~ Sarah Mae, p xv}

“I wish someone would have told me, tried to prepare me, for just how hard motherhood would be.

When things got really bad, I tried to reach out for help in small ways, but I never wanted to put anyone else out, so I would act like I was fine. In reality, I was getting worse. I wasn’t spending time with friends, I didn’t have anyone to watch the babes, so I could get out or go on a date with my husband, and I was lost in a wreckage of undisciplined activity. I thought I could do this mothering thing without other women, but it turned out, I couldn’t. I needed help; I needed a mentor.”   {- Sarah Mae, p 18, emphasis mine}

This is exactly how I’ve felt over the years.  I’ve even tried to submit my verbal resignation of this 24/7 job a number of times, but for some weird reason my husband won’t accept it.  😉

I love that both Sally and Sarah put their hearts into writing this book.

Each chapter starts out with a letter that Sarah writes to Sally, and Sally’s response back.  Sarah Mae goes on to tell about some of her experiences that she’s had, the struggles, and the fight against idealistic tendencies that we as moms often have.

Sally responds with recollections of her own experiences, and suggestions on how to get past some of the struggles.  Although Sally is Sarah’s mentor, it feels like I have my own Mommy mentor that I can pack into my purse and glean wisdom from when I need it.  🙂

 “Going at it alone is, without a doubt, one of the most common and effective strategies that Satan uses to discourage moms.  A woman alone in her home with her ideals eventually wears down and becomes a perfect target for Satan to discourage. Some women have journeyed alone for so long they are not even aware of their urgent need for mentors, friends, peers, and fellowship.”                                           {- Sally Clarkson, p 19}


The thing is, though we may talk to our friends and families about some of our struggles, there are some things that we may not know how to talk about, partly because we think we must be the only ones feeling this way.

What I love about this book is that it puts the truth out there ~ Mommas, we are NOT the only ones with these feelings and struggles!  We see other moms with their “game faces” on, and you don’t think that they could possibly have some of the problems that you have.

I didn’t think that other Christian moms struggled with the level of selfishness that I do or lack of self-discipline. Not true, Momma.  Not true!



Although I have in-the-trenches Mommy friends, I have been yearning for my own “Titus 2 mentor” for some years now.

Titus 2:4-5 tells us that older women should:

train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Sally is a true Titus 2 mentor to Sarah Mae, and to anyone who picks up this book!

Reading this book and being a part of the Desperate Mom community has really encouraged me to pray for my own in-real-life mentor.  There was a face that God began putting before me when I started praying, and He gave me the courage to step out and ask this woman, that I respect very much, to mentor me. It was a little bit scary to do, but she accepted! (woohoo!).  🙂  {this all happened just yesterday, in fact, so is still VERY new!}

Each chapter ends with some questions to ask ourselves, Bible verses to turn to, and a link/QR code to a video from Sarah Mae and Sally.

I cannot tell you how much this book is helping my mommy heart and soul!   Even better, there are a number of FANTASTIC giveaways that you can enter to help and soothe YOUR mommy heart.  Being in the desperate spot that I’m in, I didn’t get my review up until the end of the week, so you’ll want to hurry on over and enter the giveaways (here or here) before they end (sorry!).

I hope you’ll check out the sample chapter and the other book reviews as well.




  1. Is the book available in Amazon?
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