Visiting Somebody’s Blog Is Like Entering Their Home {Commenting Etiquette}


I received a really nasty, ugly comment on my blog recently.

And it got me thinking – a person’s blog is kind of like their home.  They put their heart into decorating it nicely and making it a welcoming place for visitors – friends and strangers, alike.

There is a certain etiquette that one tries to follow when they go to somebody else’s house, right?  Surely you wipe your feet before you go in (regardless of whether or not you would do that at your own house!), and you use your best manners.  You wipe up your own spills, remember to flush the toilet after you’ve used it, and generally try to leave their house looking as nice as it was when you got there.  Am I right?  As you leave, you thank the person for their hospitality and you wish them well.

So why don’t we think we need to follow a similar etiquette when it comes to visiting people’s blogs?  Is it because we get to hide behind our screens of anonymity so we think that manners don’t matter?

I’m all for respectful discussion and constructive criticism, but please don’t come to my website just to call me names and slam the decisions that I’ve made for my family or tell me that I should stop reproducing just because you don’t agree with me.  (seriously?!)

Here is a basic list of things that you should think about when you visit somebody else’s web-home:

  • Be respectful. 

    You don’t have to agree with what the other person is saying, but think about what words you use before you commit them to bytes in cyberspace.  {Is it kind?  Is it necessary?}.  Which leads to:

  • If you don’t have anything nice to say….

    truly.  Sometimes it’s better to just click that little “X” at the top of your screen rather than lambasting somebody unnecessarily.   If you really don’t like what they have to say or what they have to stand for, you don’t ever have to go back again.   Okay?

  • No name-calling.

    ‘Nuff said.

  • Remember that behind every blog is a real-life person.

    That person has real-life feelings.  Just because you have a screen and a million miles of cyberspace between you and the other person doesn’t make it okay to be unkind or disrespectful.


What other things would you add to this list?


{Photo Credit: Andy Dean}



  1. Sorry to hear about a negative comment. I get those every once in awhile & it’s sometimes hard to brush off.

    I really like your analogy of entering someone’s home. Thanks for sharing
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  2. I’m sorry you had that happen – I’ve had some recent bad experiences as well – hang in there sweet mama! great post – I like it -good common sense and decent manners. 

  3. Oh I am so sorry you even had to write this post!! It's sad that people actually would need this spelled out for them, but regardless I'm glad you are letting whoever out there who needs to read it know what your standards are.

    That being said, I love your blog and have been so encouraged through it! Maybe I should comment more to let you know that. 🙂 It's a rare find to read something so transparent and honestly beautiful and it's like a breath of fresh air each time I read it. Your discussion on depression has been especially encouraging to me as you know. Plus you have a great writing talent and that's just a bonus.

    So, thanks for blogging!

    • MOMKABOODLE says:

      Thanks Chelsee, you're too sweet!

      I have another depression post brewing (I just need to get it from my brain to my blog – haha!). I'm glad those posts have been helpful to you. 🙂

      Thank YOU for encouraging ME! Blessings to you, my friend!