7 Days of Hope for the Weary Mom Day #7 – When Life Hurts Too Much

In today’s section of Hope for the Weary Mom, Brooke talks about the pain of loss.

When life hurts too much, we desperately search for a way out, clawing our way away from the point of pain.

Pain, by definition, hurts.

It makes us uncomfortable, and changes our perspective.

I’ve found that pain, disappointment, and challenge tend to make me question the God who made me.

I’ll tell you, I’ve been in a LOT of pain over the last 5 weeks.  People have prayed over me and for me during this time, but the pain hasn’t ceased.   I start to wonder – why bother?  We prayed and prayed and prayed.  But I don’t feel like God has answered my prayers – at least not in the way that I wanted him to.

When we feel constant pain or loss, it is very easy to question God – is he really as merciful as we are supposed to believe?

“After this many of the disciples turned back and no longer walked with him.

So Jesus said to the Twelve, ‘Do you want to go away as well?’”

“Simon Peter answered him, ‘Lord, to whom shall we go?

You have the words of eternal life, and we have believed,

and have come to know that you are the Holy One of God.'”

~John 6:66-69


Brooke goes on to ask:

 Why do we seek Him?

Is it so He can perform for us, take care of all our needs, bind up our wounds, raise our dead?

He is that God. He sees us.

But if we only follow Him because of what He does, there will come a time when we feel like He doesn’t.

And then we must choose if we will turn away, or follow through the times when life hurts too much because of who He is.

The God who bends down to listen (Psalm 166:2), and gives up His all to give us life.

My relationship and day-to-day dealings with my kids actually teaches me A LOT about my relationship with God.   Yes, he IS a merciful God, and He loves us very much.
But that doesn’t mean that He always has to give us what we want – what WE think will make us happy.

In this same vein, I’m not going to give my children everything they want.  As a parent, we try to look at the big picture.  YES this one little thing that our children ask for may be what they want in this particular instance, but will giving it to them help or hurt them down the road?

Sometimes God uses our struggle and our pain for His greater plan.  It’s hard to trust that sometimes, but there it is.

I tell my kids that God is not a magic genie, and will not always give them what they ask for.  (As true as that is, we still manage to HOPE that He will give us everything that WE think we need, don’t we?)

I love what Brooke said here:

So my healing from life’s losses comes down to this:

I follow Jesus not because of what He can do for me, but because of what’s He’s already done for me on the cross.

I keep my eyes firmly on the cross, and remember this greatest act of love between God and man.

I continue to hurt for the losses, but I begin to see a glimmer of hope, a faint blush of warmth fills my heart anew

as I remember just how much He loved me.

And it’s enough.

Friends, choose to follow God because of what he has done for us already.  Not for what He can do for us now or in the future!

Here are our discussion questions for today:

  1. It’s easy to say we believe God is good and that He always wants our best, but when the difficult times come
    the truth of what we really believe often says something totally different.
    Have you ever experienced a time when you questioned everything you knew to be true about God?
    Share that experience.
  2. Have you decided that Jesus holds the words of eternal life?
    What does that mean when life doesn’t go the way you want it to go?

Thank you again for joining me in this 7 day series!

Other posts in this series:

Day 1 – When the Gentle Words Won’t Come

Day 2 -When You Don’t Measure Up

Day 3 – Beer & Cigarettes

Day 4 – Why You Can’t Live at the Spa

Day 5 – When You Just Want to Give Up

Day 6 – Sometimes It Takes An Altar


  1. Ok I made to the 7th day:) post is on my blog http://www.helpmeettosam.blogspot.com