7 Days of Hope for the Weary Homeschooling Mom Day 5 – When You Just Want to Give Up

 

Have you ever felt like just throwing in the towel, weary Momma?  Packing up your car and just driving away…..somewhere?  Anywhere?  Or just pulling the covers up over your head and sleeping for a week?

Please bear with me while I lay down some ugly truths from my life.

For quite some time now, I have been viewing mothering as a chore or a duty, rather than the blessing that it is.

The words coming out have my mouth have been ugly and negative.  I have been speaking death into our family.  If  “Out of the mouth comes the heart”, then I have a dead, black heart.

I’ve been praying on this.  A LOT.

Recently, I have felt a real softening in my heart area.  But the cracks in my armor have been small in the area of my children.  I just want this deadened shell to break away so I can pour out love all over my kids, but I have been wallowing in my weariness.

I just got home a little while ago from my first day of the Northeast Homeschool Convention.  I’ve REALLY been in need of encouragement in the area of our homeschooling, and despite being pretty darn sick, I pushed myself to go to this Convention (my first one!).

I found myself drawn to the speakers that talk about parenting – effective ways to discipline (John Rosemond), and several talks by Carol Barnier.   I came away from my time there  feeling encouraged and lighthearted.

I look forward to hanging out with my kiddos early tomorrow morning before I head out for another day of the Convention.  (Normally at this time of night I’m praying that they’ll sleep in….and allow US to sleep in).  But right now I feel an urging to hug them and apologize to them for the way that I have been acting lately.

As I read over today’s segment in Hope for the Weary Mom just before sitting down to write this post, I was amazed at how Brooke’s message SO CLOSELY parallels the different messages that I heard at the Convention.

Mothering demands body, soul, mind and heart.

And when the work doesn’t pay off…when the pulling and tugging and coaxing and dragging and pushing and begging and praying

don’t seem to change anything, we can be left empty, exhausted, worn down. Wanting to just give up. Weary.

 

I have been working very hard to change my kids lately.  Their attitudes.  Their behavior.  Their choices.  But I haven’t been going about it the right way.  I have been focusing on the RIGHT NOW, rather than looking at the big picture.

 

Brooke also writes:

Those of us who really look see our children not just as they are, but as they can be, might be one day.

Something beautiful, something great. A work of art. Lives that were once knit together in our wombs,

fearfully and wonderfully made, beautifully fashioned after the image of God.

We look with longing and wonder what the Master Weaver might create.

 

In Carol Barnier’s message tonight, she also talked about God’s masterpiece (our children) that is not yet finished.

And you know what I realized?? I haven’t been looking at the big picture. The great masterpiece in progress. I’ve had a really narrow tunnel-like vision of the ugly behaviors that I want to see changed. And I think that has REALLY been adding to my weariness. The constant battles…..those are MY fault.

In John Rosemond’s talk, he said that we, as parents, are trying to change the WRONG person when we try to change our kids. Oy.

 

Brooke reminds us of the story in~Luke 5:1-9, where Peter had been working all night to catch fish.  He was exhausted, he was weary, but he had nothing to show for his efforts but empty nets.

Jesus told him to cast his net just one more time.  Peter’s response to the Lord was:

“Master, we toiled all night and took nothing!  But at your word I will let down the nets.”

Do you remember what happened next? Those nets came back SO full, that they couldn’t even pull them back in on their own.

Will you keep casting your nets? Will you keep teaching your children, instructing them, pouring yourself into them? Even if your nets are empty now, keep casting them out one more timeYou might not see the full nets today, or tomorrow.  But they WILL come back full, with God’s help.

I’d like to leave you with one more thought from Carol Barnier’s talk.

We continuously grieve our Father with our own daily walk, yet He keeps calling us back to Him.  He continues to love on us, and to pour His grace and mercy into us. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

Who are we to do anything less for our children?  Who are we to be unwilling to look past their faults and to lose sight of what God has planned for this child?  We need to keep the end-product in mind, my friends.

Will you commit to doing that?  Will you do it in a public way that will hold you accountable?

Brooke suggests liking the Hope for the Weary Mom Facebook page, and then sharing these words on your Facebook wall:

I believe God’s plans for me are good. Therefore, I commit today that I will never give up on my
family, and I will never give up on God’s ability to move in their hearts. With His help, I will take the
next step of faith even when I feel I can’t, because He is the God of miracles. If you’re ready to make
this commitment too, copy and paste this on your wall. @Hope for the Weary Mom
(where @Hope for the Weary Mom is an in-comment link)

Or these on Twitter:

I will never give up on my family, & I will never give up on God’s ability to move in their hearts.
#WearyMom”

Our discussion questions for today (please feel free to answer in the comments area, or in a post on your blog (please leave a link here so we can check it out):

  1. Have you ever felt like Peter did after that night of fishing? Ever wondered how in the world you would ever find the strength to try one more time?
  2. What does “God meeting you in your mess” mean to you? Do you expect God to change your environment, or to get it in with you, giving you the tools you need to make it?
  3. Are you ready to proclaim to the world that you will never give up on your family and never give up on God’s ability to work in the hearts of your children?

 

Other posts in this series:

Day 1 – When the Gentle Words Won’t Come

Day 2 -When You Don’t Measure Up

Day 3 – Beer & Cigarettes

Day 4 – Why You Can’t Live at the Spa

Comments

  1. answered on my blog… this chapter really spoke to me… http://www.helpmeettosam.blogspot.com

  2. Beautiful, beautiful post girl. And this section of the book is so my favorite. I love how Brooke weaves the story right into our lives.

    Casting one more time today!

  3. Castrodaryl says:

    Matthew 18:26 – With God, all things are possible! I believe this with all my heart thus I thank God for enabling me to be the best mom I can be every single day. God is my strength, patience, self control, gentleness, kindness, goodness, peace, joy, & love as I parent my 3 sons everyday. He is my mercy & healer at times I fail & fall. He is my salvation & hope in every “rewind” (boys & i agree to start all over again at times we hate each other) instances with my boys. He has good & pleasing plan for my boys & I. Thank you Lord!