7 Reasons Why I’m Lucky to Have a Strong-Willed Child

I’ve been thinking for some time now that I needed to blog about raising a strong-willed child.  Most days it is just plain HARD.  I feel such a connection with other moms that experience a similar level of intensity with their children!

I got something of an affirmation today reading this post on The Better Mom from sweet Jamerrill of Holy Spirit-led Homeschooling.  Then the sweet gals from The MOB Society encouraged us to write some GOOD things about our boys today.

So here goes.  This is why I’m LUCKY to have my strong-willed child:

  1. I get the BEST hugs in the world. He is a GREAT hugger!
  2. He loves with the same intensity that he digs in his heels with. And if you’re one of  the lucky ones to be caught in his beam of love, watch out!  🙂
  3. He’s got a GREAT smile.  And an even greater laugh! (as an aside, I recently ran into his former preschool teacher who hasn’t seen him for at least 3 years.  She heard him laugh and told me that he has the SAME laugh that he did back then.  Talk about making an impression!)
  4. He is SMART. Oh golly, does he give me a run for my money!
  5. I’m (slowly!) learning that it’s not all about me, and that I need to be flexible. I probably never would have ended up being home with the kiddos if it weren’t for my strong-willed kiddo that NEEDED to be held ALL of the time as a babe, and I DEFINITELY wouldn’t have been homeschooling!  I also learn (over and over again) that sometimes I just need to STOP with my own agenda and tend to the needs of the kiddos at that moment.
  6. It brings me closer to God. Seriously.  Sometimes it’s me asking “WHY?”, but many times it’s me being humbled and realizing that I can’t do this without Him.
  7. I have an extra dose of compassion for others with strong-willed kiddos – because I GET IT now!   We’re mothers in the trenches, and we’re doing the very best we can.

So there you have it.  I have a VERY strong-willed child.  I often say that I have the hardest kid in the world (though 99% of the time I know that is not true), but I need to be speaking words of LOVE and AFFIRMATION over him rather than complaining so much.

For friends, “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.” ~ Philippians 4:8
Merry Christmas!

I’m linking today’s post up with:
Mothers of Boys


  1. loved your list!! I have 4 kids, 2 boys & 2 girls, each and everyone strong-willed. They could each be the poster child for Dr. Dobson's book 🙂 I keep wondering what it must be like to have one of those "easy going" children – thanks for the reminder that although we struggle with intensity, we also share love, joy, and enjoyment with the same intensity!!

  2. Yes, yes!