This Kid Is Driving Me Crazy! – 7 Tips To Get You Both To Your Happy Place

C’mon, you know you’ve felt that way.  I’m not here to judge – we’ve ALL Arrr!been there at one time or
another.  (and any parent who says that they haven’t is lying to you!)

Here are a couple of tricks that we’ve picked up along the way that can help you and your kiddo find common ground.  Most of these will work for kids of any age.

#1 – BREATHE. I don’t know about you, but I find myself holding my breath when I’m irritated.  I remember reading about how women in particular are more stressed b/c they don’t breathe deeply enough into their diaphragms to access some calming chemical (real scientific, I know.  I don’t have a source for you, but I promise I did read it once).

#2 – Walk Away.  Even for just a few minutes.  You and your kiddo both need some space to calm down.  Don’t be afraid to put them in front of the tv if you have to.  It won’t harm them to do it, just make sure to pick an age-appropriate, preferably educational show.

#4 – Assess – Is your kid(s) hungry? Tired? Overstimulated? Are you?  I know when my blood sugar drops or if I’m exhausted I get really cranky and the problems seem so much bigger than they actually are.  Feed yourself, feed your kid, and see if they need a nap or some calm play-time.  Reading a book may help you both calm down together.  Kids tend to flip out a bit more when they’re overstimulated.  Try looking over your day, or even the few days leading up to today.  If there has been too much activity going on, you both may just need some cuddle time together.

#5 – Water – Oh my goodness, this seems to work no matter how old the kid.  I put my little one in the bath the other day because she was having a major meltdown and nothing else was working.  The result? Totally different kid!  Let them play in the tub, in the sink, in a bucket….it doesn’t even matter.  Splashing around and pouring water into different containers does wonders for both of you!

#6 Outside Time – I can’t tell you how many times BugBuddy and I have been “butting heads” so-to-speak, but once we got outside we were both instantly relaxed.  Even when he was a baby, if he was having a meltdown we would carry him outside and he would calm down almost right away (and he was inconsolable up until that point).

#7 A little bit of humor – You have to be careful with this one.  If your child is as sensitive as BugBuddy can be, this may blow up in your face.  But if you can inject a little bit of humor into the situation, you’ll find that you both stop feeling tense.

These tips are all tried and true ways to diffuse a tough situation.  Try ’em out and let me know how they worked for you.  Or, if you have any tips of your own feel free to share them in the comments section.


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